With my daughter, I need those gaps. She resorts to violence from time to time, and I take the brunt of that. I don’t like that, and my natural inclination is to hit back. Can’t do that with a ten-year-old so I picked up meditation. It’s been great for that.
The meditation I do is all about focusing on your breathing or some other specific thing. I use the app Calm but have used Headspace in the past. Both have a variety of meditations, but I use the breath one the most. It’s like lifting weights at the gym, doing it one day doesn’t make you able to lift a car. Doing it time and time again can get you to at least try to lift a car. It’s why it’s called a practice.